The Carrot and the Stick
THE CARROT AND THE STICK We have a constant dynamic. It’s not 24/7 full discipline like you see in movies, but it is a dynamic that has elements that are “always on.” She is always submissive, I am always the Dominant. The only time this is not in effect is when we do bills, or deal with our kids. She has a day collar that looks like jewelry, it only comes off for showers, medical procedures, or when I remove it to put her play collar on. I also track her chores and behavior to a standard we negotiated together. Keeping my eye on her, and her knowing that I am always watching, waiting to add a “click” to my counter, means that we are both always thinking of one another. Our dynamic, which feeds into our intimacy is always on our minds. We started this five years ago and the second honeymoon it initiated has not run out yet. Though there are challenges. I often joke with my submissive that she can be frustrating to deal with because she is such a good girl. If she were mor